I know it sounds ridiculous to name a post as such, but it fits for the context of the post. I'm not saying this is the end all be all of things and by no means do you have to follow anything I say, but just take some things into consideration. I've learned a bit from experience and I'd like to share it. I know in this day and age it's difficult to have confidence in yourself with so many pictures of these beautiful people doing extravagant things, but it is needed for good mental health to be confident in yourself. I'm not talking about over confidence like those people who know they look really good and are rude to people about it, I'm talking about the confidence that comes out when you are explaining the facts about your favorite show. You know what your talking about and you aren't second guessing what your telling them, because you know the show inside and out.
- Have Good Personal Hygiene
I say that because if you put time into looking good, then you will feel better about your flaws. If you put more effort into how you present yourself not only to people, but also to yourself then you can find what you like about yourself. Showering more often, or working out can give you a better view of your body and in turn what makes you unique.
- Remind Yourself That You Are Important
This one is very important. Telling yourself that you are important is IMPORTANT. It lets you remind yourself that all that you do is special, and that you are special. You are a big part of other peoples worlds, and you are needed. Everything you do is so important and so unique, if you don't remind yourself that you won't get to show people the best of who you are. You won't get to show yourself the best of who you've become.
- Dress Like You Are Confident
Ever heard the saying "fake it till you make it", well what it says explains a lot. You fake whatever you are trying to achieve until you actually are achieving what you've been faking. In this case wear what you think exudes confidence, what does your perception of confidence look like? Whatever image you've conjured up, try to imitate that. You can also try imitating some famous people that you admire, try mimicking their style. Do not do anything that you are not comfortable with, if it makes you uncomfortable then do not do it. You should push your own boundaries, but not enough to make you highly uncomfortable.
Smiles make the world go round honestly. If you are someone like me who always has a mean mug on, then maybe this will help. I still have trouble with this, but try and smile whenever you can. Even if it's a small smile to yourself, that way it'll bring warmth to your face and make others feel more comfortable near you. It's also good to think of something happy, so that the smile is genuine. It will also keep you in a good mood if you have happy thoughts running through your head.
I tell this to my friends all the time, YOU HAVE STRENGTHS. Anything you do that you think is fun, that is or can be a strength. I don't want to hear the "well I don't think anything is fun, I don't do anything", that is a load of bologna and you know it. ANYTHING you do can be a strength that can honed into a possible career, and I mean anything. You like writing, well practice different writing styles. You like taking pictures, then maybe photography is your thing and you should work to expand your style. At the end of the day almost everything you love doing as hobby is something that can be honed to become something better in the future. Not only should you write the strengths you have in material goods, you should also write the strengths you have in your personality as well. Are you compassionate? Do you enjoy listening to people? Is giving advice something you enjoy?
- Remember That Others Struggle As Well
You are not the only person having a bad day. You are not the only person that struggles with things, although it may seem that way it's not true. Everyone struggles to do something in their life, and if you succeed at that particular thing or not is not what is important. The take away from any struggle whether successful or not is that you're being challenged, because you are going to go to another level in your life that is even better than the last. None of these famous people had this fame set in their laps, no they worked hard to attain that title they have. Things in life don't come easy, there has to be time and work put into it. It is like the story of the little red hen, she planted a wheat field and grew it herself with no help from her house mates. The only time they even attempted to participate was when the bread from the wheat field was baked,
- Take It In Steps, Not Leaps
What I mean by this is to take things in tiny increments, so that you don't get overwhelmed. Things can be stressful in life, especially when you are thinking about all the things that need to be done to get you to your end result. Instead of thinking about all of your chores at once think of one thing at a time, take it one by one. Lets say your goal is Z and your starting point is A, now you can't just skip all of the letters in between you have to go through them to get to Z. It's A to Z not AZ. Things take time and need specific attention, so take it one task at a time. That way you can get things done right without overthinking the whole process and getting nothing done.
This means exactly what it says, stop the negativity. All of it. Stop throwing out bad vibes to others and stop letting them be a negative influence to you. If someone isn't supporting you or is telling you negative things then that person isn't a good influence on you, and if they aren't adding to you then they might be subtracting the good you need. I'm not saying drop people, but communicate with them maybe they don't realize they aren't being supportive. If someone is outright telling you negative things about you and about others and you don't like it, then maybe you should communicate how you feel about those types of things. If the person lessens the talk that is negative around you that's good, but if it continues even after you correct them then communicate with this person less. Not only should you stop the negativity around you, you should also stop the negativity on the inside. Stop telling yourself you can't do something, stop comparing yourself to others. That is another negativity that needs to be cut, negativity from yourself can be worse than what you can hear from others. Stop downing yourself, stop limiting yourself to what you think is the "correct" way. There is no correct way of doing anything, if something makes you happy and it isn't hindering you then you can do it. You can do anything. Stop telling yourself you can't.
- Be Open About Your Weaknesses
Just as you write down your strengths, write your weaknesses as well. Knowing both is important, and physically seeing them can put things into perspective. Don't get upset that you may have more weaknesses than strengths, that's totally fine. If your seriously upset about what your weaknesses are then change them, work on what your weak points are and hone them. Practice with things your not good at or things you want to do, if you mess up that's also fine. No one starts out as a pro, no one. Work on what you think you can change and change what you feel is a weakness to you, but never compare yourself to another person. Also be open to others about what your struggling with, maybe trust worthy friends can help you work on it.
- Work On Your Strengths And Weaknesses
As I've said before work on weaknesses, but also your strengths. Knowing both and honing both can really help you to gain confidence. Working on your strengths helps you to get even better than you were, and working on your weaknesses can help you get better at what you felt you couldn't do. You build your confidence by getting to know yourself and what you can accomplish, working on them can do that.
You should have confidence not only about your physical appearance, but also about your hobbies as well. You should have confidence with whatever you do. Everything you do is great, there is no other person on this planet that looks like, acts like, or does what you do. You are the only one of yourself. You're a limited addition, everything you do is unique to you so show the world the best of you. Show case what you can do and do it with pride, do it with swagger.
If this helped at all, then let me know. And tell me what you do to gain confidence, I'd love to know what others do to pump themselves up.
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